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Saturday, December 5, 2009

#34 - Weekly list - 5th edition

As it turns out, I am having one of those ‘lost’ days….the kind of day that you have a million things on the To Do list, or at least a million things that could be done….and you don’t feel like doing any of them.  So onward with the procrastination in the form of my weekly list…

This week I am giving much thought to all of the things in life that I don’t understand (and probably never will), and wish there was reasonable explanation for.

  • Why are the rough days usually so random?

  • Why, in the big scheme of life, does it seem that bad things happen to good people far more often than the bad people?
  • Why are babies and children taken from people who can care for them, love them and so desperately want them, but given to people who don’t want, neglect, abuse and/or kill them?
  • Why do people steal Christmas trees?

  • How in the world can anyone think that, at this point in my life, I have more spark and look happier than I have ever looked??? The person who said this is very dear to me, and very well meaning, but seriously….
  • Why can’t men and women grieve the same way, at the same pace???


margaret said...

I wish I knew the answer to those questions, especially the one about men and women grieving. I wish my husband grieved the same way I do, with the same intensity just so that I felt that same "in it together" feeling that we had in the first days following Calvin's death.

On another note, we once caught a woman stealing a Christmas tree from where I worked. At the time, I was working in a gaming centre where people go to gamble. Here this woman had spent the day gambling and then stole a decorated tree on her way out the door. We confronted her in the parking lot as she was desperately trying to stuff it into the trunk of her car. Pathetic. I feel the same way about people that steal Christmas lights and smash pumpkins at Halloween. It's sad really.

Holly said...

Man, I wish I had answers to a lot of questions! Might make things a little easier.

Heather said...

These are questions I have pondered often...well not so much the "why do people steal Christmas trees question". I didn't know this was an issue, but now that you mention, I would like to know why people do it!
I think the question that has haunted me the most is why I had my daughter taken from me while so many who mistreat their children get to keep theirs. I have seen the latter firsthand, and it makes me sick...

The Blue Sparrow said...

Amen to each of these questions. I wonder these exact things myself. *HUGS*

Mary said...

I have many similar questions. Those are things we can never know. And by the way, hoping someone didn't steal your Christmas tree!

Jessica said...

I have pondered these questions myself, but again like some of the other posters...hadn't heard about people stealing Christmas trees.

I have to say that with the holidays approaching I have seen Mike open up a little more. He'll say something and it will just surprise me. Does my heart good to not only know he still hurts as well, but something we can still go through together. Outside of those moments, sometimes I feel like I am alone.

*hugs* I hope one day we can understand these answers.

Choofy Mama said...

Just lurking on your blog, I'm a loss mama, friend of Debbie's...our 2nd daughter was stillborn in 2007 at 41w. <3